"WISH LIST" VERSUS "DISH LIST": PHILOSOPHY OF HAPPINESS!
Each one of us has a "Wish List" in life. This is primarily the ramifications of our ambitions in life. Such a manifestation of desires of a human being stem from a need for advancement and achievements in life. Not necessarily, all would be achieved There are always hits and misses. What we actually get in life makes our "Dish List". In other words, going to a restaurant and ordering a meal. What you have on the "Plate" and what you have in the "Menu", would differentiate the two lists.
Wishes are achieved NOT by dreaming and merely desiring but working for them. The fulfillment of wishes leads to happiness and satisfaction. Non fulfillment leads to disappointment and dissatisfaction. When dissatisfaction overrides satisfaction , it causes frustration of human mind. This is where the tale of 'Spider and King Bruce' becomes very very inspiring. In fact, 'failure' is the first stepping stone to grand success.
Francoise D Roche, a French philosopher and author had once said, "we promise according to our hopes but perform according to our fears". How true is this? The battle is always between our hopes and fears. Therefore most often one fails because one was overpowered by self generated fears. Fear leads to caution and caution curtails one's risk taking ability. And remember, nothing can be achieved without some amount of risk in your decision making.
" Wish list" and " Dish list" are the same for those who relentlessly remain focussed on their objectives and spare no efforts in achieving them. Fulfillment of Wish list is directly proportional to the efforts put in. Self- doubts; half- hearted efforts and lack of preparation are the causes which reduce the contents of your " Dish List". No wish is easy to come. Try, try again. On the heap of failed efforts, lies the plateau of success. A modern adage is : Quitters never win; winners never quit.
In the above context, we ought to narrate to ourselves, time and again, the fable of a THIRSTY CROW with a morale which says: Where there is a will, there is a way. Satisfaction of thirst leads to happiness. Thirst can be physical need or a mental desire. Both add to our wish list. It is their satisfaction which leads to happiness. We must understand the equation for Happiness is : Wish List ( WL) minus Dish List ( DL) is equal to Zero Or to put it arithmetically, it is: WL -DL = 0.
In other words, if the gap between the two is more, it increases unhappiness. Thus the degree of happiness/ unhappiness is directly proportional to the size of the gap between Wish List and Dish List. Less gap, more happiness; more gap , less happiness. The corollary to this rule is that in order to be happy, number of wishes / desire be curtailed so as to reduce the gap in the wish list and Dish list.
Wish list can be progressive. To fill up your bowl initially, right at the beginning, it is to cause indigestion and constipation. In life, one must move from bound to bound; achievement to achievement in a progressive manner. Do not congest your bowl of wishes at any stage. Our hopes must match our fears so as to ensure our promises and performances are pegged at keel with each other.
Each one of us has a "Wish List" in life. This is primarily the ramifications of our ambitions in life. Such a manifestation of desires of a human being stem from a need for advancement and achievements in life. Not necessarily, all would be achieved There are always hits and misses. What we actually get in life makes our "Dish List". In other words, going to a restaurant and ordering a meal. What you have on the "Plate" and what you have in the "Menu", would differentiate the two lists.
Wishes are achieved NOT by dreaming and merely desiring but working for them. The fulfillment of wishes leads to happiness and satisfaction. Non fulfillment leads to disappointment and dissatisfaction. When dissatisfaction overrides satisfaction , it causes frustration of human mind. This is where the tale of 'Spider and King Bruce' becomes very very inspiring. In fact, 'failure' is the first stepping stone to grand success.
Francoise D Roche, a French philosopher and author had once said, "we promise according to our hopes but perform according to our fears". How true is this? The battle is always between our hopes and fears. Therefore most often one fails because one was overpowered by self generated fears. Fear leads to caution and caution curtails one's risk taking ability. And remember, nothing can be achieved without some amount of risk in your decision making.
" Wish list" and " Dish list" are the same for those who relentlessly remain focussed on their objectives and spare no efforts in achieving them. Fulfillment of Wish list is directly proportional to the efforts put in. Self- doubts; half- hearted efforts and lack of preparation are the causes which reduce the contents of your " Dish List". No wish is easy to come. Try, try again. On the heap of failed efforts, lies the plateau of success. A modern adage is : Quitters never win; winners never quit.
In the above context, we ought to narrate to ourselves, time and again, the fable of a THIRSTY CROW with a morale which says: Where there is a will, there is a way. Satisfaction of thirst leads to happiness. Thirst can be physical need or a mental desire. Both add to our wish list. It is their satisfaction which leads to happiness. We must understand the equation for Happiness is : Wish List ( WL) minus Dish List ( DL) is equal to Zero Or to put it arithmetically, it is: WL -DL = 0.
In other words, if the gap between the two is more, it increases unhappiness. Thus the degree of happiness/ unhappiness is directly proportional to the size of the gap between Wish List and Dish List. Less gap, more happiness; more gap , less happiness. The corollary to this rule is that in order to be happy, number of wishes / desire be curtailed so as to reduce the gap in the wish list and Dish list.
Wish list can be progressive. To fill up your bowl initially, right at the beginning, it is to cause indigestion and constipation. In life, one must move from bound to bound; achievement to achievement in a progressive manner. Do not congest your bowl of wishes at any stage. Our hopes must match our fears so as to ensure our promises and performances are pegged at keel with each other.
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